I'm *not* a March bridesmaid anymore...but I certainly won't replace her!

Posted Wednesday, July 09, 2008 2:10 AM

Got a Facebook post from Desiree letting me know she'll have to scale down her own wedding next March....so, no WP or 'traditional' trappings. Possibly just a celebratory dinner, since she is starting a new job soon and, well, it's a money thing.

Then she went on to say she won't be able to participate much in the bridesmaid events I will have for my wedding...adding that she'd understand if I want to replace her and apologizing all over the place!  Reading that just broke my heart , and of course my response was, no way would I ever do that! My understanding of the bridesmaid role is that you pick 'em because they're your friends and you love them..and that's exactly what I'm gonna do--just love her for who she is, and keep her as my bridesmaid. I totally understand money issues, and I'm trying my best to keep costs low for my girls. 

I'm being lenient on hair, makeup, jewelry and shoes--they can do all that however they'd like to--because it's going to cost them enough to come down to Florida to be there at the wedding....and I told her this. All she's gotta do is afford one dress, and some time to share with me and Will.

Haven't heard back from her--and that's understandable since she's about to start that new job...but I hope she feels better about all this. So far she hasn't backed out of the wedding, and I hope she won't feel she has to. *crosses fingers* I love all my girls like they're my sisters..and so far it's been looking like they'll all be able to show up. Here's hoping it's true!