To hyphenate or not to hyphenate?
Posted
Sunday, March 09, 2008 6:50 AM
It's my first Knot blog post!! This is the first step in my acheiving my Knot goal of one day being the Knottie Bride of the Week! 
Anyway, so on to my first topic. This is something that I have been deliberating for quite some time, but now that the wedding is looming, I need to face it and make a choice.
As a little girl, I was one of those that would always doodle my name with a boyfriend or a crush's last name. It always seemed a given that I would get married and take my husband's name.
Now that I have lived with my last name for 26 years and am getting married do I truly realize how much I love my last name. Not only does it represent my cultural heritage, but it also just flows really nicely with my first name. Fi's last name is by no means a bad name, it is just, well, average.
Fi is an amazing and supportive man who has made sure I know that this is my decision and that he would respect whatever decision I made. However, I know he would be disappointed if I didn't take his name at all. Hyphenating would be a nice medium, however, is it worth adding more letters to my name and signature? Both our names are relatively short, but still. Hyphenating may also be a good way to ease into the new name professionally so that there is no confusion among my co-workers and other associates.
On one hand I love having the identity that my current name provides, but on the other, just taking Fi's name would enable me to make a new identity as the wife of the man I love. It is also early enough in my career to where I have plenty of time to create a "new name for myself" professionally.
Anyway, that is enough rambling for one post. I guess I still have some thinking to do on this subject.