Dates With My Husband

Posted Thursday, May 22, 2008 1:05 PM

I’ve heard that once a couple gets married, they lose the part of themselves that attracted them to each other in the first place. So how do you find yourself again? Well, as Maria in the “The Sound of Music” wisely said, “Let’s start at the very beginning.”

When I first met my husband in person, we went for coffee and walked around a shopping center. The second time we met, a week later, it was at CityWalk at Universal Studios. The third time was New Year’s Eve and we went out for dinner. Those first three meetings were followed by hundreds of others.

We dated. And why? To get to know each other better.

So what is the point in dating after we married? Well go back to those first dates. There was romance. There was flirting. There were butterflies. There was suspense. Everything that makes dating fun. Of course, marriage removes the uncertainty of if he will call again.

I’ve mentioned before how everything my husband and I do socially is written down in leather-bound planner. Amazingly enough, we hit a weekend when we had nothing scheduled.

My husband asked if he could take me on a date. Something fun and not too far (with gas prices being so high everything lately is closed to home). I told him he could take me wherever he wanted. So we’re off to Solvang.

He asked if I wanted to do anything special during our trip. I told him that I am at his disposal, happy to do whatever he wanted. We get to enjoy a drive up the coast followed by a day of eating, walking and shopping – plus flirting, handholding, romance and all the best aspects of dating.

With our busy lives, we don’t have time to take a romantic vacation for a few months. But thanks to two people willing to go back in time a bit, we can be the couple we once were – and will be again.