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A new F-word: Frusturated

Posted Wednesday, December 14, 2011 10:25 PM

It's been a while since I've posted on my blog. I thought by now I'd be posting about being pregnant or even having a baby. However, it hasn't happened yet.

I read an article that says even if all the stars aligning and you do everything right - there is still only a 25% chance of getting pregnant. 25% - those odds suck. I mean it's good for a discount or an interest rate, but 25% is not comforting.

We started trying last January, but my husband went on Levetra in June. So we can cut out the first half of the year. Then came then fun "I hate math" part of my life. We thought we' d figured it out - but I guess I was off (and that was with ovulation kits). So we continue with the kits  - I even bought fertility stones and a mojo baby when we were in Salem (I figured it couldn't hurt).

Went to the doctor when my period was late two months in a row. He told me sometimes women who want to have a baby stress themselves out to the point that they end up being late. Lovely.

Next step is DH going to the doctor and making sure he's not shooting blanks.

He stresses himself out wanting this - and though he tries to relax, he knows we both want to be parents, so that ends up stressing him out more.

The really frustrating part is women all over the world (and many teenagers in this country), who get pregnant without even trying - yes I'm talking to you Teen Mom.

My grandmother passed away in October. The rabbi told my mother that when someone passes to Gan Eden (the next world), they can watch over those they left behind and thing seem to happen -- like pregnancies.

I sure hope so.... I think we'll make damn good parents - 100% guaranteed.

 

 

 

Posted by Shoshie
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Comments

re: A new F-word: Frusturated

I am so sorry that conception has not happened as quickly as you had hoped.  Everyone, myself included, just assumes that pregnancy will just happen whenever we are ready.  I think it's a good idea to begin testing.  Please, please do not usecthecterm "shooting blanks" when referring to male fertility. To be blunt, it is highly offensive, being part of a couple dealing with severe male infertility requiring IVF to conceive.  Best wishes to you and please contact me for support and information.

Posted by MoFree    Tuesday, January 03, 2012 9:56 AM


re: A new F-word: Frusturated

I know you have heard this already but relax and let it happen on its own. Enjoy your husband for now. Hey, borrow babies if you need to. Good luck and enjoy life!

Posted by jadeorchid21    Wednesday, January 18, 2012 10:41 AM


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This Chicagoan turned California girl is all about making people smile -- and I love to plan things. For more about me, and how I'm making my way through Just Married life, Enjoy My Blog: Tales of a Jewish Suburbanite.