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Attn: Fan Program Brides

2007-06-09T23:19:00Z

Just say no. Don't do it. Seriously. It's the biggest PITA ever.

-- PSA Brought to You by a Disgruntled Bride

Just.

Say.

No.

whoa. Whoa. WHOA.

2007-06-09T15:34:00Z

A week from today, I'll be getting married. Married. MARRIED.

Things are definitely starting to fall into places. My cousin pinged me on instant messenger telling me how he's boarding a plane in 8 hours to visit my family and attend my wedding. I just assembled the very first petal program (and my poor neighbors had to endure all the pounding at 8 in the morning). I bought a small gift for FI yesterday even though we said we weren't going to exchange wedding gifts (so I cheated . . . whatever).

Wow. As a bride who was as laid back as anyone could be for the past year and five months, my attitude has most definitely changed dramatically in the past two weeks. The big day is finally almost here -- just one more week! I've always felt like I'm ready to be married but not ready for the wedding -- and it can't be any more true today.

Oh, and nowadays whenever I hear our first dance song, I get all teary-eyed. Great. I'm going to be a mess at the wedding; I can feel it already.

Must. Get. Over. It.

2007-06-09T05:10:00Z

It. Is. Too. Late. To. Obsess. Over. Stupid. Little. Details.

First, it was the place cards when my friend made a really good suggestion on improving the design . . . too bad I'd already finished making them by then. I really, really, really, really want to re-do them, but alas time (and energy) does not allow for do-over.

Then, it was the damn shoes. Allow me to say this: I love my shoes. Seriously love them. Unfortunately, they don't go with my dress too well. They're about an inch too high for the hem of my dress and the silver color just clashes with the ivory-ness of my dress. Boooooooooo. I went to many (I repeat, MANY) shoe stores today and simply could not find another pair of shoes that could compare to this pair. What to do? What to do? Besides, this cheap bride here simply cannot stomach purchasing another pair of shoes that she'll only wear once. Alas, my current pair of shoes really on't go with the dress . . . sigh, the irony. What to do?

Oh, by the way, I also am not happy with the brooch I got for the bustle. And the bustle is not done. Hmm. My dress is super wrinkled as well. Grrreat.

Finally, there's this tiny little part where my FI's gone out of town the weekend before the wedding. Let's just say, it irritates me -- a lot. I'm stuck here doing all this final wedding preparation with zero help from him. What's up with that? I would ask my wedding party for help but I know they have other things going on in their lives and I just can't tell people to drop everything else to help me. Boo :(

Ok, enough venting. Oh wait, one more: did I mention how I still have not figured out what I'm getting my MOH and BM as a thank-you gift? Yay for this last-minute bride.

Wedding planning sucks.

Eff You, Checklist!

2007-06-05T20:04:00Z

How dare you tell me that I still have 63 items left to do with 10 days left?

It is My Month!

2007-06-02T16:06:00Z

I know I really only get one day (though considering many other brides will be getting married on my day and probably all think it's their day too . . . whoa, let's not go there). But really, it's June! It's my wedding month!

[running around with my rainbow lollipop for this special occasion]

I can't believe that some of the brides on the June 07 board (where I am only a lurker) are already getting married this weekend! Wow! And in two weeks, it'll be my turn :)

With that said, I only have two more weeks to prepare for this shindig. What worries me are all the things that aren't on the Knot checklist (which I cross-reference with the InStyle checklist, Martha Stewart checklist, etc. Crazy, I know). For example, I don't know what I'm going to wear to the rehearsal / rehearsal dinner. Nowhere on the checklist does it say "shop for a new rehearsal dinner dress." Do I need a new dress just for that? Probably not, but still it's something to think about. Also, I've been given the task of finding a dress for my mom to wear. Why me???? I don't know. But with two weeks to go, I'm browsing through other people's bios so I can see what typical moms wear to weddings instead of working on other wedding tasks, say, making those damn programs.

Great, I just realized the balance for my florist was due 2 days ago.

It's officially time to start stressing out.

Vent and Some Other Random Stuff

2007-06-01T00:52:00Z

I vent about stuff here because, well, you don't *have* to read my blog. So there.

Anyway, my mom just called and told me that my dad didn't approve of the dress she got a while ago (which, by the way, she could not return) so now she's searching for a new dress. She sounded so unhappy but sigh, what can I do besides staying out of it?

I also realized that the lines on my DIY "reserved for" signs weren't exactly centered so I'll have to re-do them tonight. Oops.

My Fiance is picking up some gifts that were delivered to his parents' house so we (well, I) can write the thank you cards. Yay!

I'm getting tomorrow off as comp time from work so I can run some wedding errands -- another YAY!!

I can't believe I only have 2 weeks left. Wow. Time flies! Whee! I'm so excited.

Oh and today, my Fiance put me on his insurance so I only have to pay half of what I used to pay for auto-insurance! Wow! Those damn bastards have been ripping me off all these years.

So many random stuff, I know. It's like I have ADD or something.

3 More Weeks! 3 More Weeks!

2007-05-29T04:21:00Z

Instead of working on important, time-sensitive wedding stuff, I'm currently:

- trying on my dress, again, for the millionth time
- making "reserved for" chair signs even though the venue said they'd make them for us (hey, but they wouldn't match our color theme if I didn't make them!)
- stretching out my killer (literally) wedding shoes

Yay for productivity for this lazy bride!

Honestly though, I really don't know what I'm supposed to be working on anyway. I guess I could consult the to-do list, but "nah," says the lazy bride. And now that we'll only be having 60ish guests instead of the 75 we'd anticipated, our budget isn't so tightly-stretched anymore and I don't feel so bad if we have to spend a little more here and there merely for convenience (take that, downtown LA!).

With three more weeks to go, I'm definitely hitting the "omg I'm married! Look at me! I must tell everyone!" phase. I told random strangers that I'm getting married -- who does that?? I'm going c-r-a-z-y. In a good, happy way, of course :) I've been so lukewarm thoughout the wedding planning process that I'm glad to be super excited. Whee!

Hmmm, what else. I'm pretty sure I did other WR stuff but I guess that's to be expected. After all, I only have 3 weeks left! YAY!!!!

Craptastic Times - Part Two

2007-05-20T01:25:00Z

I've officially reached the lowest point in this wedding planning roller coaster.

First, the friend who asked whether he could bring a guest to the wedding asked again today, to which I said, "Sorry, we can only afford to invite close family and friends" . . . when in fact I really wanted to say, "No. It is really tacky of you to ask by the way."

Then, the Best Man complained about how expensive the tux rental was -- a whooping $60. Mind you, this guy (single, no rent to pay) is a professional who makes twice as much as the salary of an average household in America so it's most definitely not a financial issue. He's been in wedding parties before, so it shouldn't come as a shock that he has to pay for his own clothes. We went out of our ways to keep the cost down because we didn't want to be a burden to our wedding party. The greatest part is, he's my closest friend aside from my fiance. Are you effin' kidding me???

By the way, to top it off he also bitched and moaned about the only task we've asked him to do: give vendors their final payments on the day of the wedding. It's not rocket science, is it? I mean, checks are going to come in envelopes labeled with vendors' names, and all he has to do is hand them out before the wedding is over . . . is it really that difficult?

In the end, we decided to just pay for everyone's tux rentals. My fiance suggested asking the other groomsman or a family member to take care of the payment duty. Quite frankly, I don't even want to ask the Best Man -- the guy we've been friends with for six years -- to make a toast anymore because I simply cannot bear to hear anymore complaints.

I am so disappointed that while we try so hard to keep the amount of time our wedding party has to commit to our wedding as little as possible, it's still not good enough for them. It really hurts :(