Non traditional people by my side and his
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My best friends are guys and along with my
sisters will be by my side i can see the 2 of them anywhere else. FI has
a friend who grew up with that is female her daughter is his goddaughter so I
love it. Now how to make this work lol. Suggestions I found online
are.
wear a tux, but for his vest to be the
same color as the bridesmaids' dresses
If your Man of Honor is uncomfortable
planning a bridal shower (as tradition calls for), you can either have a couples
shower or let one of your other attendants plan it
from http://wiki.weddingbee.com/Man_of_Honor
Responsibilities
Pre -Wedding
- As
my man of honor is my very best(and gay) friend, I let him in on the
traditional pre-wedding responsibilities, including helping with wedding
dress shopping, the bridal shower, and the bachelorette party. We talked
about what he would be comfortable with, and went from there. For the
bachelorette party, we opted to go with a co-ed party, since my FI has a
groomswoman on his side!
- My
man of honor was my brother. He was quite happy to do all of the groom's
things before the wedding!
During Wedding
- The
most important duties are still the same, I think. The main idea is to
keep the bride sane and help with keeping track of the schedule and
vendors. I will be delegating the "female" roles(ie make-up
touch-ups, bustling, etc.) to a female bridesmaid.
- Duties
during the wedding are up to the bride and her man of honor - my brother
was happy to stand last in the "lineup" so he didn't have to
hold the bouquet - but when the family dog showed up to our outdoor
wedding, my brother took care of the dog and made him sit and watch
politely.
- Think
about whether you want to give your man of honor a boutenniere or tie that
matches the wedding colors. Do you want to find a way to distinguish him
from the groomsmen?
Tips
- One
way to distinguish your Man of honor from the best man is through a
wedding website. I have a man of honor, and I posted his picture(along
with all the bridal and groom party members) so that anyone that visits
the site will know all about him and recognize him on the special day!
- I'm
not having a "Man of Honor" but I am having a
"Bridesman", one of my best friends from college is a guy. FI
has become pretty close to him as well, so we are kind of
"sharing" him. He will stand by me the day of the wedding, but
for pre-wedding stuff (bachelor/ette parties, etc.) he will participate w/
the other guys.
- Remember
that men usually don't care as much about the details as women, so it's
likely that discussions about flowers, dresses, favors, etc might not go
over well. Instead of focusing on coming up with
"responsibilities" and trying to make him feel equal to your
bridesmaids, let him know that you asked him to be by your side because
you care about him, and that all you really want from him is to be there
smiling right alongside you in the pictures on your wedding day.
When the Bridesmaid or Maid of Honor is a
man.
What's a bride to do if her
best friend is a guy, and she really wants him to be a special part of the
wedding party? If your best bud is a man and you really want him to be an
attendant, then by all means. This new role is perfectly acceptable is done
tastefully. His role will be slightly different than that of one of the girls,
but allow him to feel comfortable with his duties.
In traditional portrait poses, the men will
all be on the grooms side, be sure to inform the photographer that he is one of
the brides attendants.
Suggestions for the Man of Honor
Run errands and address invitations
A male bridesmaid/maid of honor usually wears
the same attire as the groomsmen, but may have a different boutonniere, tie or
vest.
Walks down the aisle with an unattended guest
of honor, the bride's grandmother, relative or special friend.
Should not attend all female showers or
fittings of the bridal gowns.
Dances with the other attendants during the
first dance.