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I have been away but i lost my angel

yvonne614 — Mon, 02 Aug 2010 18:22:00 GMT

At 15 weeks on Friday I miscarried and although I feel in a hurt of pain I am grateful to actually be alive, I had to have blood transfusion and almost lost my life also. Ofcourse the wedding or destination wedding is on hold because I need time to heal mentally and physically. But i know through all of this that I am marrying the right one and he would wait forever. I am in the process of getting it all together. The tears are constant some tragic some really grateful but lots of tears. Just showed me how grateful i am for that gift. How grateful I am to be alive and I will get through this

I made the decision and I am ok with the BS that comes along with that

yvonne614 — Sun, 25 Apr 2010 16:03:00 GMT

Give me a moment to be a little blunt on here. Do your wedding the way you see fit. I see a lot of bride to be's who are getting married who like to think they are expert brides and tell people what the blueprint for getting married is. They don't care that somethings are tradition, they feel etiquette is always right because Emily Post said so, they judge as if they are the one's marrying the person. This is common I know it alls and usually the bridezillas. Well I will just say traditional is great, modern is great, eclectic is great but what is more great is you are marrying the person you love and at the end of the day that is what matters, not the fact that you scuba dived and got married or that you wore a beautiful white dress with a long aisle and got married. You both did it your way. Life would be so boring if we were all the same. be confident in your choices and quit asking 50 people if they think it is ok because at least 4 of them will hate it lol and then what? The people who you have chosen to be guests know you, they will accept it eventually or maybe it will give them to talk about but do you it you and you FI way and BE HAPPY. You are getting married to a wonderful person and BE YOU.

We found a wonderful person to perform our ceremony

yvonne614 — Sun, 11 Apr 2010 19:23:00 GMT

Bonnie A. MacAllister

Rev Bonnie MacAllister was our perfect choice. She was very warm, funny and full of ideas. Very open to what we wanted and just had a GREAT vibe about her so yay! I am happy.

We choose vows and he repeated them and just to hear them. The till death do us part, the I take thee. those words alone just hearing them made me want to cry. I can't wait to hear those words. I choose to write a poem and agreed the Rev would read the poem for me but I think I might read it myself, to me that would be a special thing for me to actually articulate what I am feeling in writer prose. Being a writer this means a lot to me. But all in all it was all a beautiful experience, man i can't wait to marry this man. Cancer tried to tear us apart and my man was strong and God was graceful and I am blessed. I love him, I love his son, and my daughter loves them both. 20 years of friendship has made us stronger. I just feel so blessed.

Down the aisle what will be playing?

yvonne614 — Thu, 01 Apr 2010 22:57:00 GMT

Well I had a song I wanted but then I decided to have someone play African drums as I come down the aisle. I love the sound and it incorporates into my black is beautiful themed wedding. The man I have in mind has been a mentor to my FI and one of the greatest drummers in the game. I am quite excited and my FI met him in the place we are getting married..it is all coming together.

Black Wedding Dress

yvonne614 — Sun, 28 Mar 2010 04:59:00 GMT

Thats what I will be wearing. In the process of looking know and extremly happy with my final decision. I have many reason one being I am not traditional which is great if someone else is. I am very cool with that but its not me. Two I dont like wearing white and 3 the idea that white is pure bothers me and that black is evil when I think black is beautiful just like all the other colors the statement speaks to me and I want to embrace that. FI is just as artsy and political as I am so it works out.

I hae seen so many beautiful white weddings so it isn't to down anyone from wearing one most brides look absolutely stunning in white, It simply doesn't represent us. So gown hunting i go

Happy Tears

yvonne614 — Thu, 11 Feb 2010 13:17:00 GMT

I write this as I am watching my FI sleep. My mind is beginning to wonder back to when we met in 6th grade and he was the class clown not let me fix that he would laugh at whatever the class clown said and I happened to be the class clowns target due to my height, 5"8 in 6th grade. I couldn't stand him because when we were alone I knew there was something different about him. &th grade I attended another school but 8th grade I returned and I am at my locker and here he come. I tried to hide behind the locker like that was possible and then he said two word "Hey Yvonne, your back." Ok I waited for the joke but nothing and he remebered my name then he said "It is great to see you again" I looked behind him waiting for his "friend" to come start something but he never came I was thinking "It is not 6th grade and I will whip his" well you know the rest. Later in the year we exchanged numbers and called each other staying on the phone until we fell asleep on it as friends then he became my boyfriend. high School we broke up but was fast best friends. He had never let me down when it came to trust and unconditional love letting me be free to be me and that is why he was my best friend. Life happened and we stayed friends the whole way he had his girlfriends I had my boyfriends eventually we both had a children, him a boy and mines a girl. Never still did we think we would get together I mean he is a DJ Turntablist all day rocking parties, weddings, shows and me I was the non partier no drinking, smoking nothing but one day life changed and we were able to put a tag on those feeling and understand what it has always been. Being a kid you don't understand deeper feelings but we had a connection and later I would call him my kindred spirit until one day we recognized it as love. We had both been in long term relationships that didn't work and that element that was missing we found in each other. That piece of the puzzle, the respect and admiration for one another, the butterflies, the acceptance of who the other one is, the celebrating the others successes, the laughter (he cracks me up) and I sit here and realize that I am in a place of peace and complete happiness. My best friend who I remember his Hammer pants, being in art class. him cutting music class (it was lame) is about to walk down that road with me to forever. It is overwhelming but I am happy. My family loves him, he has been considered fam for years, my friends adore him. I love his son and he loves my daughter. So yeah I cry happy tears a lot this year lol. Completely blessed.

More centerpieces ooo la la

yvonne614 — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 12:54:00 GMT

Just a few more ideas I like. I need to make a decision I know.

Money here money there "GET OUT OF MY POCKET"

yvonne614 — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 16:23:00 GMT

Yes I want a beautiful wedding but am really more concerned about the marriage, bills, children, house note etc. I refuse to become a victim of bridism (lol my own word) . It is hard to say no to things because this is THE DAY. The day you say forever to your best friend. See I am giddy already but some stuff is ridiculous. Truth is some things that are expensive that we want in the long run is not worth saying "Until death do us part". Am I am saying be cheap? No I am saying be reasonable. No your limits and stand by them. Use that creative mind and make it your day so when you come back after your honeymoon, you still have electricity lol.

Thats my rant for the day