Toronto blue
Andie & Beth
October 20, 2007
Toronto, Canada




Yes, in case you're wondering, we're two women. However, *I* am most definitely the bride! Ha. In all seriousness, we're happy, we've got a great family together and we wante to make it official in front of all our families and friends. Both sides of our families are very happy for and supportive of us, so we couldn't ask for anything more. Love is love, in whatever way it comes to us.

We live in North Carolina, but our Canadian neighbors to the north are open-minded enough to allow us to marry legally.
 We're very happy to support their economy of equality for all.



Ceremony & Reception venue: The Academy of Spherical Arts
in the fabulous city of Toronto.
BIG props to knottie Lanie26, who suggested this place. It was perfect!

Our pro photographer was the wondeful and talented Alessandro Garofalo
(http://www.alessandrogarofalo.com/).
Please credit all pictures to him.

It was a crazy, wonderful day.



Getting Ready

 
My dress was Jim Hjelm #8663 (in ivory, from Fall 06 collection), Alencon lace overlay over silk. Amazingly comfortable!
Purchased through Pearl's Place at a substantial savings.


 
 


Brooch from White Aisle ($19.99)

I intended on wearing the brooch on my sash, but changed my mind after I got dressed.

Hair comb from Naugi.com ($39, creme pearls)
Bracelet from Carolee (about $50, bought it a local department store)
I loved the bracelet, though a couple of the pearls fell off by the end of the night.
I also bought matching earrings (not shown, $38) which were lovely and elegant.
All jewelery is available for sale (except the bracelet, which is missing the pearls).
Page me on the NEY board if you're interested.
Shoes from My Glass Slipper ($47, style
CC51030, heel height 1.25") Very comfy!
The shoes were in white and even though my dress was ivory, there was no obvious difference.

 
Champage and chocolate-dipped strawberries sent to us compliments of the hotel.
I was so busy getting ready that I didn't touch any of it.

 
Men's bouts were red orchids, and Beth's was a white orchid with rosemary for good luck.


Beth with her attendants. Her cousin Joe, and brothers Mike and David.



I loved my bouquet! I wrapped it up with my grandmother's hanky, which was my something old, borrowed and blue (her initial, which is also my middle name, embroidered in blue).  The brooch was one I already owned.



 
   



Pre-Ceremony Pictures

We went to Toronto's Union Station. It's a huge old building with great architecture and really lovely light everywhere. It was interesting taking all the pictures among the hustle and bustle of regular folks using the trains. We had Japanese tourists photographing us, teenagers zooming past on skateboards, and a couple ladies stopped to compliment my dress. Ha! It was really fun.












 My sisters Stephanie and Valerie were my bridesmaids. They were awesome the whole day, being funny and silly and keeping me from freaking out too much. I love them to death. They looked beautiful in dresses they picked out on their own, which I didn't see until the day of the wedding. Yay for non-matchy wedding parties!



The boys in their first suits, looking adorable. They each picked out their own suits and ties.
As a gift to them, we bought them lapel pins (a dog for one, a neuron for the other) that reflected
something they're both really interested in (animals and science).


The guys. On the far left is my best man (and best friend of 20+ years) Todd. The guys were told to wear dark suits of their own choosing, and I bought them matching silver ties.




This picture is hilarious to me because we were posed facing the entrance of a very busy coffee shop. Hard trying to keep a smiley face when so many random strangers were looking at us.




I love my sisters.


Bailey and Jax were pretty much over it by then. They were tired and we'd forgotten to feed them lunch!
They were troopers and were really great despite all that we asked of them the whole long day.

 
Our photographer shmoozed one of the security guards into allowing us up into the second level of the station, which is usually closed off to the public. It was really gothic and beautiful up there.


One of my favorite pictures. I am gripping the handrail tightly to make sure I don't lean back into the really, really dirty and dusty handrail and smear dirt on my butt. My hand was filthy afterwards!





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There was a glass-floored tunnel-like passageway up on that abandoned second level that
was just filled with this gorgeous warm light. Our photographer about had a heart attack at how
perfect it was for pictures. I love how these turned out.
I felt like were were in a 12th century cathedral.






 
 
 
Another abandoned walkway with brilliant light.
I had to keep my eyes closed because the light was making my eyes water!


 I love this picture of Beth.



Ceremony



 
Have I mentioned that my sisters were great at keeping me laughing the whole day? I love them so much.

     

We were sequestered to hide in the wine cellar/tasting room at the Academy to wait for the ceremony to begin.
There were issues with the shuttle bringing the guests from the hotel to the venue, and it delayed the start of the
ceremony for 45 minutes. Not that I noticed. I was nervous and thank goodness the Academy staff kept me supplied
with convenient glasses of wine. My adrenaline was running so high, though, that the alcohol didn't affect me one bit.
 
 
 
 
Our wedding party walked in one by one, alternating between Beth's attendants and mine.


Beth walked in with her cousin Joe, and then met up with Bailey halfway down the aisle
and they walked to the end together. It was very cute.


My dad and I. He was awesome the whole night. I love his smile here.



 

 
 
 

The best part! Making it legal!
In Canada, signing the marriage registry is part of the ceremony.
During the signing, our DJ played "Signed, Sealed, Delivered, I'm Yours" by Stevie Wonder.








Our recessional song was "Let My Love Open The Door" by Pete Townshend.
It was happy and uplifting and set the mood for the rest of the night perfectly.






We did it!



Reception

 














 

Our venue had three antique pool tables for our use the entire night.
They were a big hit with the kids and teens, especially.


Whoever said that kids shouldn't be at weddings? Pshaw.
I had a table with coloring books and crayons (from the dollar store) and
also bought about 200 glowsticks from Ebay. I have no idea if the coloring books
were used or not, but the glowsticks were a HUGE hit! The kids loved them.


Toasts. My best friend Todd got very emotional and funny. He said the moment
he handed me my wedding ring at my wedding was the most moving moment of his life.
I lost it then.






I love Bailey toasting with an empty water glass.



 






Cutting the Cake

 
When my cousin married a couple years ago, I bought her and her husband cheap Dollar Store
crowns and tiaras and made them wear them for their first dance.
The pink crown tiara I am wearing in these pictures is her payback.
The monogram & Swarovski cake topper came from Ebay seller Bella-Tiara (about $33 with shipping)

 

 
Our cake was from Hello!Cakes, and they also made us the most ADORABLE armadillo "groom's" cake (thanks again, Lanie!), in honor of our one of our favorite movies. It was red velvet with grey icing, of course.
She was almost too cute to eat!
The kids got to cut the butt off the armadillo cake, with some help.




Dancing


First dance to "Over The Rainbow" by Israel Kamakawiwo.




 

Danced with Dad to "It's A Wonderful World" by his favorite artist, Louie Armstrong.




























Beth with Alessandro, our fantastic photographer.




The men doing their job, watching the baby.









Details


BM bouquets.


I asked our florist to provide individual taped daisy blooms for each guest. They were in baskets by the entrance for everyone to take as they came in. Some people ended up wearing the flowers behind their ears. A few ended up on our cake, too.


The family photos and guestbook table. The gourd is a traditional Argentine "mate", a nod to my Argentine family. There should also have been a model airplane that belonged to Beth's deceased father, but they forgot to put it out.


Check out her eyelashes! So adorable.




Centerpieces were in low square amber glass vases provided by our florist. All the vintage glass candleholders that decorated the room throughout came from Knottie Jbloom, although it's funny that most of the ones photographed were the blue ones! Each table had a variety of colored glass in ambers, greens, pinks and purples.
After the wedding, the glass was sent to Knottie Bethieroo to use at her wedding.



Our programs (along with matching table numbers and placecards), from The White Aisle.
(style is Venice, in aqua and black). I loooooved how they turned out. Just gorgeous.

 
 
The cake with the initial cake topper. As you can see, the prongs on the topper were too long for the top layer, so my sisters scrounged up a few extra flowers to fill in the space.

 
 
Our venue lit several tall wrought iron candlabras throughout the room. They provided so much warm light
that we really barely had to have any other lighting. It was so lovely.



Vendor Reviews & Planning Ideas
Location: The Academy of Spherical Arts
They were wonderful! The events coordinator was helpful and friendly and was very patient with all my questions and returned my emails quickly. Our package included the use of the three antique pool tables in the room, which were a huge hit. The food (we had a buffet dinner and a dessert table) was wonderful. I never got around to even tasting any of the desserts, but I heard they were delicious! The service was attentive and I was pleased. Our package also included a DJ (Maximum Music) which took care of ceremony, dinner, and dancing music. The DJs were very easily available through email prior to the wedding and stuck to my "do and do not play" list. He kept quiet throughout the night (per my request) and I was overall very happy with the service.

Photographer: Alessandro Garofalo

My favorite vendor so far. Awesome awesome awesome. Super great guy, extremely talented, flexible, open for anything, and full of ideas. Recommend absolutely!!

Officiant: Roben Goodfellow, All Seasons Weddings
Loved her! Sweet, funny, helpful, and was instrumental in helping make our ceremony so moving. You can tell she loves what she does. I really feel like she's a friend.

Save The Dates: ordered from Wedding Paper Divas.
Excellent online service, good prices, shipped exactly when they said they would, and arrived quickly. We were very pleased with how they turned out, and lots of people complimented us on them. 



Invitations: ordered from Jean M.
The website is super easy, allows you to customize pretty much anything you'd like, and the prices are very reasonable. I have had my heart set on lush letterpress invites for months, but they just couldn't happen within our budget. And I am not crafty, so DIY was out of the question! Jean M. had affordable and very pretty stuff that wasn't tacky, and their service so far has been very good.  We chose the Olivia design.



Dress: Jim Hjelm 8663 ordered from Pearl's Place
It was very easy. I went and got measured by a seamstress, emailed PP's for their size chart and we did everything over the phone. I ordered on March 29th, was told to expect it in early July, and it arrived June 12th!  I had alterations done by a local seamstress. Beth bought her own tuxedo from Men's Wearhouse.


Florist: Ladybug Florist.
Loved them! Paul met with us and heard all my ideas and did everything we asked for. The flowers were all completely beautiful and perfect and I was so happy with them! Absolutely recommend them.

Cake: Hello!Cakes.
Lisa is awesome and I completely trusted that they would do a wonderful job not only on the wedding cake, but also the armadillo cake. The wedding cake was not only gorgeous but delicious, and the armadillo cake was THE cutest thing ever! We got tons of compliments.

Hotel Block: The Delta Chelsea Hotel
Very helpful and easy to work with. Everything came together  easily and I am pleased.



My Storyboard:
I put this together early in my planning to kind of organize the overall "look" I wanted for the wedding.
I knew that I wanted a sort of vintage Art Nouveau elegant feeling, and these pictures helped
me keep the inspirations organized. I gave this to my florist when we were discussing flowers, to help him get a feel
for what I wanted. As they inevitably do, ideas change througout the planning and in the last few months, I
changed the color scheme (though I never really had "official" colors) to mostly blues and whites.




Wedding Website: e-wedding.com
They have very pretty free pre-made templates to choose from, and for $9.95/month I upgraded
to be able to have our own custom URL (handy for our guests to remember), more pages available (such as an RSVP function that I used for our post-wedding brunch), guest book, etc. Very professional-looking and I got lots of compliments.

Since ours was a destination wedding of sorts, I used the website to provide all the information our guests would need for their trip to Toronto. I did not do OOT bags (way too expensive and logistically useless for as many people as we had coming), so this was the way our guests planned their travel and time in Toronto.

Table Planning software: Perfect Table Plan.com
Definitely worth the $35. I used the heck out of this in planning my seating. Very customizable, easy to use, and I
think I would have driven myself crazy without it. You can print out your seating plan with lists of names (which
I gave to my venue to use for setting up tables), you can connect couples and families together to get a good overview of where you're putting people, and tons of other features such as  meal preferences, etc. Recommend!

Monograms: Creative Montage
Gorgeous, inexpensive and very quick turnaround. For $15, I received five beautiful, customized monograms in the
colors of my choice. I originally intended on using a monogram on our programs and invites, but later changed
my mind (when I found White Aisle) and ended up only using the monogram on one item (the photo cards below).
Here are some examples of the monograms I didn't use:
 

Photos from our guests: Flickr.com
Instead of buying disposable cameras or giving out blank CDs, I set up a Flickr account using an easily-remembered
login name and password. For $20, I upgraded to a Pro account which allowed unlimited uploads and storage. I printed up cards with the login and password info and had several of  them placed at each dinner table, the guest book table and in a couple of other places around the venue. This way, guests could take their digital photos and upload them to our Flickr site quickly, easily and for free.

I designed the postcards in MS Word, bought a print-it-yourself postcards kit at Office Depot and printed them up myself at home, four to a page. Super easy, especially for someone as DIY-averse as myself.

 Within a few days after the wedding, we ended up with several hundred wonderful, candid photos of the wedding, weeks before our pro pics! This was one of my favorite things about the entire wedding. DO THIS!! You won't regret it.


 

Favors: We skipped them.
Waste of money, useless, and one more thing to have to worry about. IMO. No one will notice if you don't have them. 

Rings: BlueNile.com and Overstock.com
We didn't do matching bands, as our tastes are pretty different. Beth knew what she wanted from the beginning, but I shopped around and tried stuff on at regular jewelry stores to get an idea of what I wanted. Then we bought online. Mine was from Blue Nile, and I am so happy with it! I had to exchange the first ring I got to change to a smaller size, and the return was handled swiftly and easily. Great customer service and the ring is beautiful. Beth was also very happy with her purchase. Recommend!

Wedding Day Purse: from Knottie Noisy_Penguin
Noisy is one of those extremely talented and crafty people and specializes in purses. She made me this adorable
lace purse for me to use the day of the wedding. Lace on the outside to match my dress, and a
pretty blue lining on the inside. I ended up using the brooch on my bouquet instead.
I can't believe that I have no pictures of me with it that day!




Engagement Pics

Taken around Toronto, by Alessandro Garofalo.

 



 


 





Why We're Doing This...

Marriage is at once a deeply personal commitment to another human being and a highly public celebration of the ideals of mutuality, companionship, intimacy, fidelity, and family. Because it fulfils yearnings for security, safe haven, and connection that express our common humanity, civil marriage is an esteemed institution, and the decision whether and whom to marry is among life’s momentous acts of self-definition.
Chief Justice Margaret H. Marshall, writing for the majority, Goodridge v. Dept. Public Health, Mass. Supreme Judicial Court (November 18, 2003)



http://www.freedomtomarry.org/




Del Martin, 83, and Phyllis Lyon, 79, who have been a couple for more than 50 years, were the first same-sex couple to be legally married in the U.S. on February 12, 2004. By March 11, when the California State Supreme Court ordered a halt to the weddings, over 4,000 gay and lesbian couples had tied the knot. These couples had traveled to San Francisco by bus and plane. They had called in sick to work, packed their kids and camping gear into the backs of their cars, and headed to City Hall. They had stood in line through high wind and torrential rain, all for a chance to have their relationships legally recognized.





“The odd thing about the opposition to gay marriage is that if opponents were not so blinded by bigotry and fear, they would see that gay men and lesbians provide the last, best argument for marriage: love and commitment. Gay marriage will not and cannot weaken the institution of marriage. A heterosexual is not somehow less married because a homosexual has tied the knot. On the contrary, the institution will be strengthened, bolstered by the very people who for conservatives represent everything loathsome about modernity. Gays are not attacking marriage. They want to practice it.”

— Richard Cohen, “This May Be Good for Marriage,” in the Washington Post, November 20, 2003


Etc.


The dogs. Please don't call them "furbabies"! Norman on the left, about to chew the head off his monkey doll, and Gambit on the right, contemplating her takeover of the universe.


Yes, the couches are fugly, but they're comfy, were cheap, and the slipcovers were in the wash.



My parents at their wedding in Barcelona in 1966. I love that my mom wore a suit and the gloves are fabulous! So cute, the both of them.